Every leader, boss, or manager with emotional intelligence (EQ) whom I have ever met didn't arrive there overnight. Most worked hard for years to develop new habits, and especially new ways of thinking (i.e., self-awareness) that will inform great decisions.
If you're serious about your own leadership growth, a good first lesson should always be to step back and inspect how your thinking, which leads to your behaviors, impacts others.
How a leader thinks and then reacts to things is crucial for success. High-functioning, emotionally intelligent leaders can be trusted because their thinking patterns mostly lead to behaviors that foster mutual trust, respect and inclusiveness.
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